I think she/he likes me! What should I do?
Flirting
Hugging
Kissing
Touching
Am I ready to have sex?
Deciding to have sex
Sex when you're using street or party drugs
How do I get my partner to have safer sex?
If my partner and I are both HIV positive do I still have to use protection?
Always use condoms!
All about lube
Other ways to have safer sex

ALL ABOUT LUBE

What is lube?
Lube is short for lubricant. People use lube on the outside of a condom to make the sexual experience more pleasurable. Get water-based lube. Don’t use creams or oils like Vaseline, hand lotion or baby oil because they will weaken the condom and may cause the condom to break. Some guys also use a dab of lube inside the condom to increase their sensitivity to make it feel better for them. You can also use lube on the outside of a dental dam to make it taste better.

LUBE TIPS

  • Don’t forget to lube it up!
  • Using lube can make sex feel awesome.
  • Water-based lube can dry up fast.
  • Silicone-based lube is more expensive but doesn’t dry up as fast.
  • Never use oil-based lube and a condom—it will break.
  • Friction can wear down the condom and the lube can dry, which can make condoms easier to break. Have more lube and condoms on-hand.

Oral Sex
Oral sex on a girl is also called cunnilingus or “going down”; on a guy, it’s called fellatio or “giving head” or a “blow job.” When you’re HIV positive, you don’t need to worry about passing on HIV to someone if you GIVE them oral sex. But there are some things you should think about if you’re HIV positive and someone is going down on you.

For the gals: Oral sex is when a gal has her vagina licked, sucked and kissed by her partner—especially the clit. The clit (clitoris) is often the most sensitive part of your genitals. Sometimes you can have a better orgasm from oral sex than from vaginal sex. It may not be for you—everyone is different. It takes practice to discover what feels best.

Oral sex tips: If you’re an HIV-positive lady and someone wants to go down on you, there are things that you can do to lessen the risk of giving your partner HIV:

  • Use a dental dam, or cut the top off an unlubed condom and slice it in half lengthwise and use that.
  • The rougher you are, the more chance there is for HIV to be transmitted through tiny cuts in your partners’ mouth and your vagina.
  • Don’t let your partner go down on you after they’ve brushed/flossed their teeth or eaten something rough (like an apple or chips) so that there is less chance that they will have tiny cuts on their gums.
  • Use a dental dam for oral sex when you’re on your period, because your menstrual blood contains HIV.

For the guys: Oral sex is when a guy’s penis and testicles are licked, sucked and kissed by his partner. Usually the partner puts the penis partway in their mouth and lets it slide in and out.

Oral sex tips: If you are an HIV-positive guy, to make sure that you try to have the lowest-risk oral sex as possible you can try some of these tips:

  • Get your partner to lick the shaft of your penis or lick and suck on your balls instead of the head.
  • Go easy and don’t let your partner deep throat you.
  • Don’t cum (ejaculate) in your partner's mouth.
  • The rougher you are, the more chance there is for HIV to be transmitted through tiny cuts in your partner's mouth and on your penis.
  • Don’t let your partner give you oral sex after they’ve brushed/flossed their teeth or eaten something rough (like an apple or chips) so that there is less chance that they will have tiny cuts on their gums.
  • You can use a latex condom (flavoured—yum!) and have your partner suck away!

 
 
 
 
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