I think she/he likes me! What should I do?
Am I ready to have sex?
Deciding to have sex
Sex when you're using street or party drugs
How do I get my partner to have safer sex?
If my partner and I are both HIV positive do I still have to use protection?
Always use condoms!
All about lube
Other ways to have safer sex

Other ways to have safer sex


A dental dam is a square piece of latex available at most drop-in health centres or clinics. Use a dental dam when you “go down” (have oral sex) on a woman if she’s on her period. If you can’t find a dental dam, you can use a condom. Just unroll the condom, cut off the top and bottom and cut it down the side to make a square piece of latex. It helps sometimes to stretch it out. Or you can use plastic wrap (like Glad Wrap). Remember, make sure there are no cuts or rips in the material you use because blood could get through.


Rimming, or licking the butt hole, can be a high-risk activity for passing on sexually transmitted infections, also known as STIs. STIs are bugs and bacteria you can pass on during sex. Always use a barrier, cut-up condom, dental dam or plastic wrap (like Glad Wrap) to lower the risk.


This is when you put your fingers or fist insider the vagina or butt hole of another person. Remember, since your fingers and hands are dry, use lots of lube. This way it will go in easier and there is less chance of damage, especially to the butt hole! Don’t forget to go very slowly! Wash your hands thoroughly and wear latex gloves for protection, just in case you have cuts (even hangnails are dangerous).


Vibrator – used to rub or vibrate different parts of your body

Dildo - long like a penis and usually used to put inside the vagina or butt hole; it may or may not vibrate

Anal Toys – different objects that are inserted into the butt hole. (Make sure this is an approved toy, don’t use household objects or food.)

Strap On
– a special belt that you can connect to a dildo; it allows a woman to use the dildo to fuck her partner.

People with certain physical disabilities find that sex aids help to heighten sensation.

NEVER re-use sex toys on each other without thoroughly washing them first! They carry liquids from your crotch and butt. Put a condom on the sex toys if you are going to put the toy into more than one person (change the condom each time you have sex with a different person). Clean sex toys after with alcohol or hot, soapy water. THIS IS A MUST!

Phone & Cyber Sex
Lots of people use the phone or Internet for sex. This is called “phone sex” or “cyber sex.” During these conversations, people “have sex” by describing sex acts, masturbating at the same time and/or sharing sexual fantasies.

If you do this you are not at risk of passing HIV on to your partners. BUT be careful about meeting strangers, even if you feel like you know them well from conversations you have had on-line or on the phone.

How do I keep safe?

  1. Don’t give out any important personal information (even your full name).
  2. If you are going to talk to a person on the phone, use a cell phone.
  3. If you decide to meet, make sure you meet in a public place. Go out for dinner, meet at the community centre or at coffee shop.
  4. Give a friend your date's name and number before you meet.
  5. If you decide to travel to another city to meet someone for the first time, stay in a hotel or with a friend.

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